The first few days of pregnancy and all the jazz!
I very well remember the day I found out I was pregnant. It was one such hot day in the month of march. I was felling hot and flustered since morning that day. A pounding headache made me wonder if I was falling sick somehow. I was looking for medicines for the headache when I stumbled upon the pregnancy test kit. I decided to check it out, just in case.
The two bight pink lines appeared almost immediately. It was a sweet surprise for us that I honestly wasn’t expecting it. I seen people trying for months and years. I was sure, it would take some time for me as well. But that wasn’t the case clearly( I know, I got lucky).
Every body is unique, so is the pregnancy. We are often advised by friends and family about what to expect for the next nine months. A lot of these suggestions were on point. But then again, few of the developments in my body took me completely by surprise.
Nausea may last for the whole pregnancy.
My nausea used to be for the whole day and would increase in the evenings. I hated the sight of food and as a result lost quite a bit of weight in my first trimester. The sensations reduced in the next two trimesters but it would pop its head out just when I am about to feel a bit comfortable. I had no cravings for food during my pregnancy whatsoever.
Find a doctor of your liking.
Your pregnancy and peace of mind will largely depend on the doctor you have. Some align with your thought process, some don’t. Some might push you to go for C-section, when you don’t need them. Some might think you are a lazy mother for wanting to have a C-section. Also, not to mention, the doctors who over charge you for everything.
Please don’t hesitate to change your doctor any point of time if you don’t feel comfortable.
Listen to the doctors (meds are important).
This point may sound silly to you, but please listen to your doctors and don’t self medicate. There will be so many folks, and, in the name of well wishers would love to offer you unscrupulous advice. The worst advice offered to me was not to take iron and folic acid tablets.
Apparently, all these, along with epidural are nothing but an elaborate pharma scam to extort money from expectant mothers. I was told to take inspiration from the older generation and try do everything natural.
I can’t roll my eyes enough.
Birthing classes are important.
I thought I knew enough about pregnancy and how to be a mother. It was until my doctor insisted on me to join birthing classes. These were supposed to educate and enlighten me about what to expect in the labor room. I am glad I took those classes because my labor and breastfeeding are a story in itself.
For instance, before my pregnancy, I had no idea about what a labor induction is or breastfeeding in general. Feeding a new born is not as easy as it seems.
Small bump and a healthy pregnancy.
I had a very small bump throughout my pregnancy. Infact, I started showing up only after seven months. I was worried initially, if something was wrong with me. My doctors assured me it’s normal for expectant mothers to not have a huge bump. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with the baby.
Sleep( and bend) the way you want.
Sleep on your right doesn’t obstruct blood supply to the baby. I was told to sleep on the left side by some folks as it is good for the baby. My doctor mentions it’s nothing but an old wives’ tale. Don’t sleep on your stomach though(upside down), other than that it’s fine. Also, sleeping on the sides does not predict the gender of the baby.
Bending sideways or front doesn’t harm the baby anyway, unless specified by your doctor for high risk pregnancy cases.
Pregnancy and a whole lot of snoring.
I snored on behalf of the entire street that I live. It’s funny but its true. I didn’t snore, I thundered. It happens because of the hormonal changes in the body and weight gain. Thankfully, it went away after I had the baby. And the thing about pregnancy insomnia? I slept all the time, day and night.
My days used to be so blah, I felt tired and sleepy all the time without even doing anything.
C-section is not the end of the world.
There is lot of negativity around C-section that doesn’t make sense to me. I am not encouraging C-section, but I also don’t think women need to be judged for having one. Regarding the health part, it is completely possible for women to attain their pre pregnancy body and health. Don’t let people shame you and lose hope. It doesn’t make you into a bad mother or lazy one just because you had your baby via C-section.
I never thought breastfeeding was something I should be concerned about. Turns out, Breastfeeding is difficult than giving birth to the baby. I had lot of feeding issues for the first two months and I felt so helpless. I hesitantly spoke to few of the friends and it seems most of them had some or the other issue.
Except, that, it’s something spoken in hushed tone for the fear of embarrassment for the mother. If you have the resources available to you, please do take lactation classes and educate yourself.
Take as much pictures as you can.
I did this mistake of not taking pictures during my pregnancy. I hated the thought of putting more and more weight and I didn’t want any remembrance of it. Such a stupid thing to do because, Now that I look back, I don’t have anything that reminds me of my pregnancy.
I got so body conscious, that I forgot to enjoy the moments. Body weight will come and go but these moments won’t.
I have learnt my lesson the hard way.